So - whether you are a tomboy or not - you have those friends. Whether you are drooling over the latest in Gortex (TM), or their marvelous ability to wear heels and frills, we envy them. Oh, we do. They always look so great, and act so confident, that we want to go shopping with them! And it doesn't even matter if they shop at Value Village, or at Nordy's. They look great either way.
Problem is, they (sometimes) want to play dressup, with us playing the role of Barbie (TM, again). As in - "Why don't you try this on? It would look great on you!" And they might be right - it would look fabulous! But something about what they pick isn't right. It might be the price tag (we all have our limits). It might not be comfortable. The fabric might be dry clean only. Or it might be so trendy, that by next month it is out of date. Life is too short to not be wearing stuff that we adore!
That's when knowing your own boundaries, and having strategies for saying "no", is helpful. Tips:
(1) Budget. How much money do you have to spend? Take that amount in cash, and leave the credit cards at home.
(2) List out items that you really need and take that list with you. Buy those things first.
(3) If it's really a great item, have the sales people put it on hold for you to come back later. I find that about 24 hours is plenty of time for me to think about it. I also like to go back solo.
(4) If you have the idea, for any reason, why it wouldn't work for you, tell your girlfriend. She may appreciate the feedback so she can help you find stuff in the future. Stuff that you DO like.
And really, isn't that at least part of the reason why you two are friends? Because you want to hang out together and maybe help each other live a little better, a little livelier, and have fun? I thought so.
Go forth and TOMBOY! (TM)
XOXOXO
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